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Have you noticed that the more you give to others, the more they take from you, expect from you, take you for granted and the less they appreciate who you are, what you bring to them, the less they see you? I have been practicing setting boundaries a lot more lately and it has paid back tremendously in my personal, as well as my professional life. I teach my clients to do so as well and it is far from being easy when you are an empath who is used to taking care of others and give more than you receive. You cannot set your boundaries if you don’t know them. In order to define your boundaries you have to know yourself, be intimate with yourself and connected to your emotions. You need to accept and feel your emotions, the good and the bad, and allow them to guide you without letting them take over you. Each emotion is a messenger telling you what works and what does not in your life, so you can adjust your sails accordingly. Each time you feel anger or resentment, you know that people have trespassed and gone too far and you failed on yourself. You may be mad at yourself because you have let yourself down once more, and at others because they have taken advantage of you again. People will only do to you what you allow them to. Speak your truth with loving kindness and without hurting others. It takes practice, trial and error. Some days you will allow people to push the enveloppe, and other days you will successfully draw the line. Take one baby step at a time, what matters is that you make progress. Change your attitude and watch others change theirs too. Be KIND and FIRM with yourself and others. Admittedly it is not always easy to be firm with your love ones, especially if you they are used to you being nice and giving. They may start to question and rebel, projecting onto you their biased reality and hurt ego, but stay with it. Be patient and gentle as you practice that boundary muscle. People will abandon you, each time you abandon yourself, each time you fail on yourself and you choose the other person over you. Try not to confuse self-care with selfishness. Self-care is a mark of respect towards you. You are not selfish for setting healthy boundaries to protect yourself. People will respect you, the day you start respecting yourself. People will stop abandoning you, the day you stop abandoning yourself to benefit the other. People will love you, the day you start to love yourself. Love yourself from the heart, not from a place of ego, and the rest will follow… With love, Alexandra Gouteron Le Ny Health Coach (nutrition, lifestyle, personal development, yoga, energy healing)

People will treat you the way you treat yourself